Ah, so children are bad for your career.
But only if you're a woman.
Of course, we as a society expect the little ladies to stay home and look after the babies (you ever had any, Mr waylayer?)
Oh, no, no, no chil'ren for me yet. Maybe I'll adopt a 16 year old later in life to avoid that whole annoying "changing diapers thing" but still catch the meaty angst-filled "my life is more important than anyone else on Earth's" teenage years.
My friend AJ (God love him), though, had twin girls at the ripe age of 25 (OK, so his wife really did). One of the parents had to abandon their career for at least a few years to help raise the whipper-snappers. Guess which one it was? Maybe it's because women are seen as having better and more natural maternal instincts (there's scientific evidence of this) or maybe it's just that women are "expected" to care for babies in our culture. Whatever the reason, the social convention exists (don't kill the messenger - I don't have a living will), and even though societal ideals are slowly changing, I predict we will never see an even 50/50 split of men/women being homemakers, at least in our lifetime. I personally would love
to sit home and have a woman slay dollars and make millions of wolves while I sit at home and continue to look good, but that probably won't be the case, and I'll die (on average) about 4-5 years before she does. There's a trade off for everything, I suppose.
To simplify my rambling: while having children may not necessarily always be bad for a woman's career, it almost never helps it.
By the way, I'm revealing more and more about my friends and myself at what seems to be a startling parabolic rate. If I'm not careful, pretty soon I'll also be revealing that the reason Queen
is my all time favorite rock band is because my neighbor and friend Billy used to loop every CD of their's on "random-repeat" while we played NHL '93 on Genesis almost every day after school.
I think I may have revealed too much again (and broke my enter key as well in the process - is this contagious?). If this is freaking anyone else out besides me, please let me know and I'll either stop immediately or do it even more.