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Has anyone here ever been to one? It's okay if you don't want to talk about it. I just kind of want to know what to expect when I go.

*sigh*

I was hoping that I'd never have to go to one but people have been telling me that I need to go because of my social problems. I can't make friends very easily, can only be open online most of the time and not face to face with other people, and just in general feel stressed when I am with friends on the rare occasions that I actually hang out with other people.

I don't understand entirely why I'm like this but it probably does lead back to my childhood experiences. Most of my memories from then are rather traumatizing.

I can't really go into the depths of my problems. I don't really even understand myself.

I'm almost 26 now since I was born on July 12, 1984.

I find it very hard to be intimate with another person or even make real life friends. It's to the point where I actually get physically ill when lots of other people are paying attention to me in real life. The recent convention I went to...although I liked being there...I got physically ill from all the attention. I felt way too nervous.

I wanted to solve my social issues myself but I'm getting older and I don't want to still be like this when I'm 40 or something.

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The first step is trust. There will be a time or two when the doctor will latch onto a particular detail and insist on talking about it at length. There will be a time when you doubt that your ramblings will amount to anything. You will be tempted to lie or hold back. Ultimately, you're only wasting time and money if you can't let the doctor do his/her job.

Something else that's very important: Don't be afraid to cry. I went in for regular psychiatric appointments in my teenage years and there was one particular session which ended with me bawling my eyes out. I don't even remember why. I just remember that cathartic feeling of suddenly having a breakthrough.

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This is truly a madhouse. And I'm the lunatic running it. I've spent three years wondering if I should be proud or ashamed.

Unfortunately I can't help you here. I have to go to a "counselor" for some reasons I'd rather not discuss (this was like 5 or 6 years ago), and it didn't go so well.

She went from asking me if I had a girlfriend to asking me if I knew what statutory rape was, and accusing be of being guilty of said crime. Keep in mind this had absolutely nothing to do with why I had to talk to her.

Anyway, a real psychiatrist will be much better, so I don't know why I even posted this. I've actually always wanted to go to one just to see what kind of dirt he can dig up. I have no need to see one, but I'm interested in doing it nonetheless.

Good luck with everything!

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Mexicano Al Grito De Guerra

Pretty much.

On regards to the underlined part, be careful about this, I'm not saying you should be scared or anything, but it's all about the terms YOU establish, if you feel that your psychiatrist is getting too pushy or too invasive, then stand up and cancel your next appointments.

But, at the same time, like Curi said, there has to be a degree in which you can allow trust, most of them are just trying to do their jobs after all.

And of course, good luck !

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Thanks for reminding me, feliciano. Can't believe I forgot to mention this: Right up there with trust is comfort.

Any decent psychiatrist will do anything and everything to make the patient as comfortable as possible. If you can't walk into that office and make yourself right at home, that's a sure sign that you need to get out of there. If you're ever uncomfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with your inner turmoil, find yourself a new doctor immediately.

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This is truly a madhouse. And I'm the lunatic running it. I've spent three years wondering if I should be proud or ashamed.

i can really relate to a lot of what you have said there, like the social ineptitude, and panic attacks in social/crowded situations causing nausia, certainly in my teenage years, thankfully i grew out of a lot of it when i was about 19 or 20, but i am still uncomfortable around people i don't know unless i have an intermediary.
to be honest most of my problems stem from mild Asbergers syndrome, which is pretty easy to self diagnose, and when i found out about it, being able to put a name on what i had helped a lot. and there are lots of support websites for people with asbergers are similar social disabilities, which really helped me.
anyway i hope going to a psychiatrist helps you. good luck.

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We're all actors, Laurie. I'm just an actor who read the script.

I had a severe form of OCD when I was younger and was extremely shy as well so I went to a psychiatrist a few times when I was in Elementary School. I've grown completely out of the OCD thing (neatness doesn't count, damn it) and I'm still shy, but reasonably shy I'd say. I can certainly relate to your problem.

I don't like the idea of psychiatrists, though. You pay them money to listen to you. And they're complete strangers. Which is a problem when you're very very shy. I know that they do a lot of good for a lot of people, but I'm just pretty biased against the profession.

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"The world is a fine place and worth fighting for." I agree with the second part.

"There's a cello in your house now."

Then that's probably the best motivation. And a healthy one. If you decide to do it I wish you good luck.

One thing about psychiatrists is, (and I have nothing to base this on) I'd feel afraid that they would be a bit too concerned with keeping me on as a patient. Like, I would feel good about a particular situation but they would say "But we still haven't scratched the surface" and then would recommend more therapy.

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"Heard them Walthers like to jump some" "As will you, with one in your elbow."

There's a lot of people out there who won't say it, but actually think that shyness is some sort of "disease"

And that is really sad, specially because being loud and stupid is considered "young" and "adolescent"



It does seem like they charge a lot more than they should, after all many therapies are just sitting around throwing your lungs out while the other dude just listens, sometimes it just happens like that.

But one has to understand too that psychology, and psychiatric methods, are all part of a very young science, the study of human behavior is very "recent" when compared to other natural or fact-based sciences, therefore the findings and their applications won't be as marvelous as one would want them to be.

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I would say, only go if you want to go, and only go if you are willing to accept that it could be quite difficult. As others have said, there is no point in going if you are not ready for the psychiatrist to talk to you. I know it is an old cliche, but what you put in is what you get out.

That said, you seem to have a sound reason for going, and your post sounded pretty rational. You have accepted that you have a problem, and you seem to be willing to go, so these are good signs that you should get good results out of this.

And then, as others have said, I wish you the best of luck.

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I can't stand people who aren't at least a little shy. In high school you always get the preppy student government people that act like they want to be your friends. It's incredibly fake. I'm reasonably shy. Of course, set me up for a good "that's what she said" and I'm no longer the shy awkward guy, but the creepy pervert. Much better if you ask me

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Mexicano Al Grito De Guerra

I agree with Diego. And once these false people realise you are a bit different to them, you get swiftly ignored. This used to bother me, not so much now as I found people who I can talk/ relate to. That said, I have hardly had the best experience of secondary/ high school and college

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Just say it like it is man, we're fucked up, we read Watchmen for fuck's sake !

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Well, I know it will be difficult since obviously talking about deep rooted problems is never really an easy thing for anyone to bring up. It's something we generally try to avoid talking about.

I still don't like the idea of going. I guess I just feel like I have to at this point.

I can form close relationships with people....it's just very hard. I have a close relationship with my boyfriend but that was formed from a friendship going back to 2002. He understands everything about me and accepts everything about me so I feel comfortable around him. I really do not feel that way around most people though. I might actually be better off if he lived closer to me. I don't see him that often and don't really have anyone else to do anything with...and making new friends is really difficult for me.

Even with my boyfriend I'm actually still a virgin because there are some levels of intimacy I haven't even been able to cross with him yet.

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I don't want to pry, but I've noticed you share more personal information about yourself, in addition to showing more photos of yourself, than most others do on this forum. Do you think it's because you feel you don't have anyone in real life to share this part of yourself with? You have dressed up at conventions and I would think that would require a certain amount of confidence to do so. I wouldn't be able to do something like that because I would feel too self conscious about it.

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"Heard them Walthers like to jump some" "As will you, with one in your elbow."

i'd cosplay if i had the resources. and to remember to actually do it.

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I've got an idea. Why not pay us, and we'll be your psychiatrists!

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Mexicano Al Grito De Guerra

I was only confident enough to cosplay in a suit and tie.


Yeah, just fork over your social security number.

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"The world is a fine place and worth fighting for." I agree with the second part.

"There's a cello in your house now."

Yeah pretty much....it's more easy for me to be open online with people than in real life. I don't know why. It's just easier over a screen than directly infront of a person.

Also, yeah I dress up at cons....because I do somewhere want some attention....but I do actually get really nervous when I do so to the point where I can become physically sick.

Anyway, being in a costume actually makes me less recognizable to people....as in they see me as the character but they don't really see ME if you know what I mean. I don't know how to explain really.

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I went to one twice because my parents wanted me to... because they thought I was depressed but I really wasn't (this was freshman year of high school). I can't really help though because the psychiatrist was like "what's wrong?" and I was like "nothing" and we just talked about movies for two sessions and then I never went again.

So yeah.

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